Tuesday, September 13, 2011

On boundaries

Tonight in our foster class, we talked about setting healthy privacy boundaries with any kids who come into our care, and how important it is to be consistent, because a lot of these kids have never seen healthy boundaries. They gave us a list of really awesome specific things to keep in mind - things like "always close the door when you're changing" and "if more than one person is in the bathroom for hand-washing or vanity purposes, the door stays wide open." These are great reminders, because Andy and I are pretty casual about that shit.

The trainers suggested starting to use these boundaries now, so they're full habits by the time we get a placement, especially if we have kids of our own. That way, it's not like the rules change overnight when the new kid arrives. I think this is really great advice, but I'm dreading putting it into practice. This isn't so much because I hate having bedroom doors closed and bathroom doors open, but because I absolutely hate wearing pajamas. (And I still maintain that bathrobes are a great way to freak out religious missionaries.)

I am a restless sleeper. I always have been. This means that any pajamas I wear end up twisted around, tangled in blankets, and generally incredibly uncomfortable. And I've tried lots of different permutations of the whole pajama thing: t-shirts, boxers, tank tops, fancy-pants button down coordinated separates, nightgowns. All of it flat-out sucks. But I think it would be a decent idea for me to start getting used to sleeping with more than just undies on, so I'm trying to figure this out. I google searched "pajamas for people who hate pajamas," but that just brings up a lot of weird shit from some company called Pajamas Media (totally professional name, guys!). I started thinking that booty shorts - like, the kind I sometimes wear under a skirt on a windy day - work okay, because they don't have enough fabric to move around. And I was thinking maybe something one-pieced would be a better idea, so there isn't the hem to ride up and wrap itself around my neck. I also don't want it to be too warm, because I love lots of heavy blankets all winter.

So basically, I want a short-sleeved and -panted union suit that fits a little snug. I realize that this is an incredibly specific and unusual thing, so I've decided to make it even more complicated by saying that I want it to be mostly cotton, if possible. I looked at a bunch of dance uniform sites, thinking maybe they'd have some sort of leotard that fit the bill, but didn't come up with anything.

Any leads on where I could find my ideal, weird, made-up pajama? Do you have any suggestions on how to make regular pajamas suck less?


  1. I have had this problem. I like to sleep in underwear, but I have had roommates, or people over. So, I got a robe made out of jersey material, and I would throw it on when I needed to.

    Also, most recently, I cut a pair of tights into shorts. I made them like three inches above my knee, so they wouldn't roll up. They are the most comfortable thing I have ever worn. I wear them all of the time. I have considered wearing them to the store, but I wont. They're tight, so they don't move around. They're jersey material, so they're not hot. I don't even realize I'm wearing them. It's the most amazing thing! Maybe something like that would work for you?

    Maybe you can check out etsy? Write to someone that can sew together the pajamas you want, see what they come up with.

  2. I have a few pairs of booty shorts, but like I said, I really think a one-piece thing would help with the whole twisting-and-choking-me thing. But I hadn't thought to commission something! What a great idea. So much easier than searching for hours for crazy stuff and settling for something that isn't what I want.

  3. Again, I know I am late to the game & you probably already solved this, but it sounds like you need some Mormon underwear.


    But, maybe a smidge shorter.